How to Win Friends & Influence People, By Dale Carnegie

Page 24: "Remember that the use of these principles can be made habitual only by a constant and vigorous campaign of review and application. There is no other way."

Page 25: "Hesitate about doing the natural thing, the impulsive thing."

Page 5:" Ninety-nine times out of a hundred, people don't criticize themselves for anything, no matter how wrong it may be. Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself."

Page 9: "Lincoln replied, 'Don't criticize them; they are just what we would be under similar circumstances.'"

Page 13: "When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity."

Page 16: "Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them. Let's try to figure out why they do what they do. That's a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness,"

Page 17: "Dr. Dewey said that the deepest urge in human nature is 'the desire to be important.'"

Page 23: "The best way to develop the best that is in a person is by appreciation and encouragement."

Page 28: "Try leaving a friendly trail of little sparks of gratitude on your daily trips. You will be surprised how they will set small flames of friendship that will be rose beacons on your next visit."

Page 42: "The world is full of people who are grabbing and self-seeking. So the rare individual who unselfishly tries to serve others has an enormous advantage. He has little competition." "People who can put themselves in the place of other people, who can understand the workings of their minds, need never worry about what the future has in store for them."

Page 52: "You can make more friends in two months by becoming genuinely interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you."

Page 57: "One can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming genuinely interested in them."

Page 67: "Action seems to follow feeling, but really action and feeling go together: and by regulating the action, which is under the more direct control of the will, we can indirectly regulate the feeling..." "Everybody in the world is seeking happiness - and there is one sure way to find it. That is by controlling your thoughts. Happiness doesn't depend on outward conditions. It depends on inner conditions." "It isn't what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.. different mental attitudes."

Page 69: "Drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every handsclap. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then,...you will move straight to the goal." "Picture in your mind the able, earnest, useful person you desire to be, and the thought you hold is hourly transforming you into that particular individual... Thought is supreme. Preserve a right mental attitude - the attitude of courage, frankness, and good cheer."

Page 73: "He knew how to handle people, and that is what made him rich."

Page 95: "The deepest principle in human nature is the craving to be appreciated."

Page 98: "The unvarnished truth is that almost all the people you meet feel themselves superior to you in some way, and a sure way to their hearts is to let them realize in some subtle way that you recognize their importance, and recognize it sincerely."

Page 99: "Every man I meet is my superior in some way. In that, I learn of him."

Page 114: "Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction in a disagreeable situation is to be defensive." "Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry." "Listen first. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don't build higher barriers of misunderstanding."

Page 115: "When two people yell, there is no communication, just noise and bad vibrations."

Page 117: "If you are going to prove anything, don't let anybody know it. Do it so subtly, so adroitly, that no one will feel that you are doing it."

Page 118: "There's magic, positive magic, in such phrases as: 'I may be wrong.'"

Page 119: "Few people are logical. Most of us are prejudiced and biased. Most of us are blighted with preconceived notions, with jealousy, suspicion, fear, envy, and pride."

Page 126: "Dr. King replied, 'I judge people by their own principles - not by my own.'"

Page 134: "By fighting you never get enough, but by yielding you get more than you expected."

Page 150: "Let the other people talk themselves out. They know more about their business and problems than you do. So ask them questions. Let them tell you a few things."

Page 159: "He didn't care about credit. He wanted results."

Page 161: "Try honestly to put yourself in his place... you will save yourself time and irritation."

Page 162: "That success in dealing with people depends on a sympathetic grasp of the other person's viewpoint."

Page 187: "The way to get things done is to stimulate competition. I do not mean in a sordid, money-getting way, but in the desire to excel."

Page 188: "That is what every successful person loves: the game. The chance for self-expression. The chance to prove his or her worth, to excel, to win."

Page 211: "A considerate word or two, a genuine understanding of the other person's attitude, would go as far toward alleviating the sting!"

Page 214: "I have no right to say or do anything that diminishes a man in his own eyes. What matters is not what I think of him, but what he thinks of himself."

Page 219: "Compared with what we ought to be, we are only half awake. We are making use of only a small part of our physical and mental resources. Stating the thing broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits. He possesses powers of various sorts which he habitually fails to use."

**FINISHED 4/27/18**

Big Magic, By Elizabeth Gilbert

Page 6: "...must live their creative lives as a means of fighting back against the ruthless furnace of this world." "Without bravery... they would never be able to realize the vaulting scope of their own capacities. Without bravery, they would never know the world as richly as it longs to be known."

Page 8: "Do you have the courage to bring forth the treasures that are hidden within you?"

Page 9: "Creative life: living a life that is driven more strongly by curiosity than by fear."

Page 18: "Argue for your limitations and you get to keep them."

Page 23: "...you do not need your fear in the realm of creative expression."

Page 25: "It seems to me that the less I fight my fear, the less it fights back. If I can relax, fear relaxes, too."

Page 27: "And you have treasures hidden within you...And bringing those treasures to light takes work and faith and focus and courage and hours of devotion, and the clock is ticking, and the world is spinning, and we simply do not have time anymore to think so small."

Page 41: "You can nourish healthier relationships in order to keep yourself undistracted by self-invented emotional catastrophes." "You can measure your worth by your dedication to your path, not by your successes or failures."

Page 71: "...merely making things, and then sharing those things with an open heart and no expectations?"

Page 88: "Let inspiration lead you wherever it wants to lead you. Keep in mind that for most of history people just made things, and they didn't make such a big freaking deal out of it."

Page 91: "I don't want to be afraid of bright colors, or new sounds, or big love, or risky decisions, or strange experiences, or weird endeavors, or sudden changes, or even failure."

Page 97: "Everything reminds us of something. But once you put your own expression and passion behind an idea, that idea becomes yours."

Page 98: "Just say what you want to say, then, and say it with all your heart."

Page 101: "Do whatever brings you to life, then. Follow your own fascinations, obsessions, and compulsions. Trust them. Create whatever causes a revolution in your heart. The rest will take care of itself."

Page 103: "Work hard, make the most of your opportunities, and grow, grow, grow."

Page 105: "You must be willing to take risks if you want to live a creative existence."

Page 107: "...open your eyes wide and let the world educate you to the fullest extent."

Page 116: "...it's a mighty act of human love to remind somebody that they can accomplish things by themselves, and that the world does not automatically owe them any reward, and that they are not as weak and hobbled as they may believe."

Page 133: "They never stressed about their creativity, and they never competed against themselves; they merely lived within their inspiration, comfortably and unquestioningly."

Page 135: "It matters./It doesn't matter. Build space in your head for this paradox."

Page 142: "...everybody imitates before they can innovate."

Page 143: "It's a simple and generous rule of life that whatever you practice, you will improve at."

Page 146: "...education isn't over when they (universities) say it's over; your education is over when you say it's over." "So when can you start pursuing your most creative and passionate life? You can start whenever you decide to start."

Page 150: "'What are you passionate enough about that you can endure the most disagreeable aspects of the work?'"

Page 154: "You can look after yourself in this world while looking after your creativity at the same time."

Page 156: "...their creativity matters to them enough that they are willing to make all kids of extra sacrifices for it."

Page 166: "...in order to stay in the game, you must let go of your fantasy of perfection." "'So many of us believe in perfection, which ruins everything else, because the perfect is not only the enemy of the good; it's also the enemy of the realistic, the possible, and the fun." "Perfectionism...often stops people from beginning their work."

Page 168: "--a man who seems not ready for the task, not good enough for the task, somehow grows immediately into his potential through the wild leap of faith itself."

Page 170: "Why am I here? What have I been called to do? How am I getting in my own way? How can I best live out my destiny?" "...be satisfied with even the smallest progress, and treat the outcome of it all as unimportant."

Page 172: "We all need something that helps us to forget ourselves for a while--to momentarily forget our age, our gender, our socioeconomic background, our duties, our failures, and all that we have lost and screwed up. We need something that takes us so far out of ourselves...that we forget to resent our enemies, forget to brood over our insecurities."

Page 173: "...if greatness should ever accidentally stumble upon you, let it catch you hard at work."

Page 183: "...conventional success would depend upon three factors--talent, luck, and discipline--and I knew that two of those three things would never be under my control...The only piece I had any control over was my discipline. Recognizing that, it seemed like the best plan would be to work my ass off. That was the only card I had to play, so I played it hard."

Page 193: "...that no doesn't always mean no, and that miraculous turns of fate can happen to those who persist in showing up."

Page 245: "The creators who most inspire me, then, are not necessarily the most passionate, but the most curious."

Page 247: "...they quit as soon as things aren't easy anymore, as soon as it gets painful, or boring, or agitating. They quit as soon as they something in their minds that scares them or hurts them. So they miss the good part, the wild part, the transformative part--the part when you push past the difficulty and enter into some raw new unexplored universe within yourself."

Page 252: "Someday it might all make sense to you--why you needed to go through this botched-up mess in order to land in a better place. Or maybe it will never make sense...Move on, anyhow. Whatever else happens, stay busy."

Page 263: "You did the best with what you knew, and you worked with what you had, in the time that you were given."

Some Kind of Normal, By Juliana Stone

Page 3: "But I don't like thinking about what if because it depresses the hell out of me. What if doesn't matter anymore because I have to deal with right now...I gotta believe that right now just might change my life... Right now is all I got."

Page 30: "One day we would learn how a smile could knock us on our ass."

Page 43: "So desperate to connect. To matter."

Page 50: "...to figure out if you are,..., a bitch or just a complicated girl who was having a bad day."

Page 79: "We're all hiding something...None of us are perfect."

Page 82: "...sometimes I wish I was still fooled, because there's something safe about floating through life on a cloud of ignorance. It is, as they say, bliss after all."

Page 97: "...you've got some stuff going on. Stuff that you're having a hard time dealing with, and I get that. I've been there. I guess we all get there sometime. It's just some of us get there first and some of us stay there a long time."

Page 102: "...we're supposed to be having the best summer of our lives...Our last blast of fun before the next phase." "Our lives are about to change forever, and right now is the time for us to experience anything and everything. If we don't grab what we want now, it might pass by and we'll never know."

Page 108: "Why was the picture they presented to the world so much more important than the people behind the portrait?"

Page 110: "Girls get pissy or whatever, and it's a big thing that carries on or days or weeks...when guys have a disagreement, they get in each other's faces, have it out, and go back to being buddies."

Page 176: "...no easy answer. No easy way. That's the thing about action and consequence. You have to learn to deal with it or you'll go crazy."

Page 214: "You can accept the way things are without trying to change them, or you can do everything that you have to do to get to where you want to be. Where you're meant to be. It might be a different version of what you wanted, but that's okay. We're kids. We're supposed to adapt."

Page 256: "...everyone had stuff to deal with. Everyone had scars that didn't show."

Page 258: "Being honest was the bravest thing a person could be."

Catch a Falling Star, By Kim Culertson

Page 91: "...I know what it's like to have people assume they know you. In my experience, they're almost always wrong." 

Page 97: "How many pictures showcased this sort of lie? How many made the viewers imagine a fantasy?...How many of those smiles were true?...Maybe we grinned into cameras in hope that we might remember we could be happy."

Page 108: "All these ways of time-stamping our inclusion in the world, our need to say, I was there. I was part of something bigger than me."

Page 116: "I think people attach themselves to certain people, certain events, because those things have energy; they create an atmosphere. And there is a certain amount of energy that gets absorbed by an atmosphere."

Page 117: "Most of us floated around seeking energy so we could just swim around in it, bask in it. And we didn't always want to produce it ourselves...Proof of atmosphere."

Page 118: "You were just being honest. Believe me, that's rare."

Page 149: "Some things were meant to stay in their hidden places, right?"

Page 158: "When something feels right, why, just because we're turning a certain age, do we have to toss it all out in the name of some sort of adult success, in the name of growing up? Why do we always have to want something else, something better? What if it doesn't actually get better? What if everyone out there is just lying to me and it really doesn't get better than this?"

Page 159: "...as human beings, [we] always have a hard time with things we can't explain... We're fascinated by things we can't figure out, by the things that don't have a right or wrong answer. Even when we can't explain them, we need to make some sort of sense out of them--create lists, find connections, map it out."

Page 183: "Remember when you were little and you were just supposed to love something? No one asked you why."

Page 201: "...sometimes, things we love need to go dormant or come out in a different form for a while." 

Page 230: "...I was good at noticing moments, at appreciating the little things in life." 

Page 233: "...I think there is value in building yourself first." 

Page 244: "We're all trying to post our best features. Pictures, texting,...we only give people the bits we want them to see. We walk around updating our status so people only get a version of us. Online, people have their own image-controlled environment. It's all a part of [us], but it's not the whole story." 

 

Page 245: "People get a sense of you. The real you. Even if it's just little bits."  "It was weird to think one person might see me one way and another person might have a totally different impression of me based on a separate list of experiences." 

Page 250: "There's no right way...Just perspective. We choose whether we succeed or fail...It's all our own spin on it. We create our own definition of success or failure. You can't hold yourself up to other people's versions of things. Not society's idea of things, and not other people's. Your own. But regret...well, that's a real thing...You should try things on, see if they fit you. If they don't it's not failure. It's a choice. But always let yourself have a choice, let yourself have possibilities...You're accountable for yourself. So if you don't ever take the chances, if you don't ever at least try, you're going to be sitting in that café when you're forty thinking about them."

Page 251: "It's not selfish to love something, to put something beautiful out in he world...You've got to figure out what makes the world beautiful for you, so you can help make it beautiful for other people."

Page 252: "...the patterns in our own lives that we assume we must follow--graduation, college, work, marriage. Who stitched those patterns together and decided they were he only way to look at life?..."

Page 288: "Each of us had people who reminded us of our past or pointed out our present, who illuminated our future path in some way."

Page 291: "Whether we search for answers in space or in the books we read, in the music we listen to, or through the movies we watch, the essential thing is that we keep exploring that we keep pushing ourselves to find our possible lives."

Page 296: "That was the great thing about growing up. We got to write our own endings, thousands of them, over and over. That was life. It was a million little endings. But it was also a million little beginnings."

Better off Friends, By Elizabeth Eulberg

Page 105: "When you're comfortable with someone, you don't need to always fill the void with noise."

Page 213: "I understand how people can get caught up in moments like that. How you want to keep reliving one small fraction of time when you felt invincible."

Page 252: "And if there was a time in my life when I needed to get focused, work out issues, it was now."

Page 276: "...home isn't necessarily where you sleep at night. It's where you feel like yourself. Where you're most comfortable. Where you don't have to pretend, where you can be just you."

Sway, By Kat Spears

Page 1: "Nothing is good or bad, only thinking makes it so."

Page 7: "That's the way life happens, why you have to be able to see all the angles every time you make a choice. What's true today might not be true tomorrow."

Page 52: "I would like to...know what people are really thinking instead of just what they are saying."

Page 54: "If I like a person, if they have a good heart, that's what makes them beautiful."

Page 83: "There's a lot of hurt in the world. You know, your parents, they're just people. Like you. You think when you get older, you get things all sorted out, or you forget what it felt like to be young. That's not it. You get older, you learn a little about the world, learn what it is to love someone else more than you love yourself..." "The only...things in this world that really matter...[is] the people who love you--and I don't mean your family. Sometimes the people who love you best have no blood relation to you. But in the end, all that will matter to you are the people who really love you..."

Page 89: "Sometimes what we want to be and what the world expects from us are two different things."

Page 136: "With some people it's more about attitude, the way they carry themselves."

Page 242: "You can't go the rest of your life feeling nothing."

Page 253: "Often we believe what we want to think is true..."

Girl Online, By Zoe Sugg

Page 1: "...keeping a diary is a great way of expressing our innermost thoughts."

Page 3: "And maybe one day, when we all realize that we all feel the same, we can all stop pretending to be something we're not."

Page 51: "...sometimes you just have to let people go."

Page 68: "I've decided that I'm not going to try to squeeze myself into a friendship that hurts me anymore."

Page 92: "Sometimes you have to face up to your fears to realize that they aren't actually real."

Page 119: "I've found that life's a whole lot better if you get a little crazy sometimes."

Page 308: "My life can be anything I want it to be--as long as I keep on remembering that it's mine."