Page 8: "...accepting that the world is totally fucked and that's all right, because it's always been that way, and always will be."
Page 11: "Being open with your insecurities paradoxically makes you more confident and charismatic around others (the backwards law)." "If you're able to not give a fuck about the pain, you are unstoppable."
Page 14: "Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different."
Page 18: "If you find yourself consistently giving too many fucks about trivial shit that bothers you -- chances are you don't have much going on in your life to give a legitimate fuck about."
Page 19: "Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what's truly fuckworthy."
Page 27: "[Suffering] is nature's preferred agent for inspiring change.. it's the mildly dissatisfied and insecure creature that's going to do the most work to innovate and survive."
Page 31: "The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place."
Page 34: "Just because something feels good doesn't mean it is good. Just because something feels bad doesn't mean it is bad. Emotions are merely signposts, suggestions... not commandments."
Page 35: "Decision-making based on emotional intuition, without the aid of reason to keep it in line, pretty much always sucks. You know who bases their entire lives on their emotions? Three-year-old kids. And dogs. You know what else three-year-olds and dogs do? Shit on the carpet."
Page 37: "Real, serious, lifelong fulfillment and meaning have to be earned through the choosing and managing of our struggles."
Page 56: "It takes just as much energy and delusional self-aggrandizement to maintain the belief that one has insurmountable problems as that one has problems at all." "Often it is this realization -- that you and your problems are actually not privileged in their severity or pain -- that is the first and more important step toward solving them."
Page 57: "The more freedom we're given to express ourselves, the more we want to be free of having to deal with anyone who may disagree with us or upset us."
Page 61: "... people become amazing because they're obsessed with improvement."
The more you question your own thoughts and perceptions, the stronger you believe in it when it has passed the questioning.
Page 62: "And the knowledge and acceptance of your own mundane existence will actually free you to accomplish what you truly wish to accomplish, without judgment or lofty expectations."
Page 79: "If you want to change how you see your problems, you have to change what you value and/or how you measure failure/success."
Page 85: "'One day, in retrospect, the years of struggle will strike you as the most beautiful.'"
Healthy values are achieved internally - and are in your own control
Page 87: "What are the values that you prioritize above everything else, and that therefore influence your decision-making more than anything else?"
Page 96: "With great responsibility comes great power."
Page 98: "We are responsible for experiences that aren't our fault all the time. This is part of life."
Page 99: "Nobody is ever responsible for your situation but you."
Page 101: "...if the people in your relationships are selfish and doing hurtful things, it's likely you are too, you just don't realize it."
Page 109: "We all get dealt cards. Some of us get better cards than others. And while it's easy to get hung up on our cards, and feel we got screwed over, the real game lies in the choices we make with those cards, the risks we decide to take, and the consequences we choose to live with. People who consistently make the best choices in the situations they're given are the ones who eventually come out ahead in poker, just as in life. And it's not necessarily the people with the best cards."
Page 114: "As you reassess your values, you will be met with internal and external resistance along the way."
When you look back and notice differences in perspectives and notice flaws, that means you've grown.
Page 119: "Certainty is the enemy of growth."
Page 129: "The more we admit we do not know, the more opportunities we gain to learn."
Pae 130: "There is a certain comfort that comes with knowing how you fit in the world. Anything that shakes up that comfort -- even if it could potentially make your life better -- is inherently scary."
Page 133: "I say don't find yourself... Because that's what keeps you striving and discovering. And it forces you to remain humble in your judgments and accepting of the differences in others."
Page 140: "...if it feels like it's you versus the world, chances are it's really just you versus yourself."
Page 154: "Don't just sit there. Do something. The answers will follow."
Page 166: "Honesty is a natural human craving. But part of having honesty in our lives is becoming comfortable with saying and hearing the word "no." In this way, rejection actually makes our relationships better and our emotional lives healthier."
Page 174: "Acts of love (and kindness) are valid only if they're performed without conditions or expectations."
Page 193: "We're all driven by fear to give way too many fucks about something, because giving a fuck about something is the only thing that distracts us from the reality and inevitability of our own death."
Page 199: "Confronting the reality of our own mortality is important because it obliterates all the crappy, fragile, superficial values in life."
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